Much of a Borderline’s (person suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder – BPD) thinking is based on delusions, which are false beliefs that cannot be altered by logic, reason, or facts.
Possibly the simplest way to understand how a Borderline thinks is explained by these two statements, “feelings create facts” and “emotions hijack logic.” This thought pattern is also called “emotional reasoning” as opposed to factual reasoning. Most healthy individuals use facts to derive their feelings. The opposite occurs in Borderlines. Once they have a feeling, they consider it to be a fact. Said another way, feelings make facts instead of facts making facts. Does this sound like Donald Trump’s “fake news” and Kellyann Conway’s “alternative facts?”
Borderlines often don’t want to know what is right or true but instead want their opinions verified as being correct. They are more interested in talking about their feelings than the logic or facts surrounding a situation. Consciously and subconsciously they will change the facts so they agree with their feelings. That is why they often comprehend events differently from others. They will remember things the way they want to remember them. They are not about to emotionally wrestle with an inconvenient truth. Energy that could be utilized in self-examination is instead consumed by self-defense.
Those who have to deal with individuals suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder are warned to rely on their own recollections of past events as compared to what the Borderline says occurred. Not only are these individuals known for faulty recollections of facts but are also notorious for frequent conscious lying.
Lapses in reality testing is one of the nine criteria used by the American Psychiatric Association to diagnose Borderline Personality Disorder. This is their technical description of the criterion, “Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms.”